Ukuqeda umshado ngenkinga yobuntu emngceleni.
Eminyakeni emibili edlule, ngashada nowesifazane engangicabanga ukuthi ungifanele. Sasithandana kakhulu, futhi ngangizizwa ngisondelene kakhulu futhi ngixhumene naye kangangokuthi ngazi ngokushesha ukuthi ngifuna ukumshada. Kodwa ngokushesha ngemva komshado wethu, izinto zaba zimbi
Waqala ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo yasendle, futhi waqala ukuba nodlame: wangijikijela ngezinto futhi wangishaya ngezinto ezincane kakhulu. Ngicabanga ukuthi unenkinga yobuntu emingceleni; ulingana nazo zonke izimpawu. Ngikuzwile lokho I-BPD ukugula impilo yakho yonke. Ngabe kufanele ngihlukane naye?
Ingabe kufanele uhlukanise nomngane wakho womshado?
Ngeshwa, ayikho impendulo elula kulokhu . Ukuthi ukhetha ukwahlukanisa owakwakho noma cha kuyisinqumo esikhulu sakho, futhi akekho ongakutshela okulungele wena. Kodwa-ke, nazi ezinye izinto okufanele uzicabangele.
Okokuqala, awukhulumanga ukuthi ngabe oshade naye utholakale enenkinga yobuntu bomngcele. Kungaba nezimo ezahlukahlukene ezibangela izimpawu ozichazayo, futhi kufanele athole ukuhlolwa okuphelele ukuthola ngokunembile ukuthi kwenzekani.
Into yesibili okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi ingxenye enkulu yabantu abanenkinga yobuntu bomngcele baphendula ekwelashweni. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokucabanga ngesahlukaniso, kungaba nengqondo ukubona ukuthi ngabe umkakho uzimisele futhi uyakwazi yini ukubamba iqhaza ekwelashweni kwe-BPD okunganciphisa izimpawu zakhe.
Ungacabangi Njalo Okubi Kakhulu
Noma ngabe kutholakala ukuthi unkosikazi wakho unenkinga yobuntu obusemngceleni futhi umshado wakho usenkingeni ngokusobala, akufanele ucabange ukuthi lesi simo sizohlala sinzima kakhulu.
Kumele uqaphele ukuthi ngisho nangaphandle kokwelashwa, ukubikezelwa komuntu one-BPD kungaba usizo kakhulu. Abantu abaningi abatholakala ukuthi banenkinga yobuntu bomngcele abahlangabezani nenqubo yokuphazamiseka iminyaka embalwa nje.
Ngakho-ke, uma unkosikazi wakho enalesi sifo, akusho ukuthi lesi isigwebo sikadilikajele. Ukwelashwa kungasiza ekuthuthukiseni impilo yakhe, noma kungazithuthukisa ngokwakho.
Okokugcina, abantu abanenkinga yobuntu bomngcele bavame ukuba nezimpawu ezinzima kakhulu lapho ubudlelwane babo busenkingeni. Ukusebenzela ukwakha ubudlelwano obuzinzile kungasiza oshade naye ukuthi azizwe ezinzile ngokomzwelo.
Vele, kufanele ucabange ukuthi uzimisele ukwenza lokhu. Nguwe kuphela ongathatha lesi sinqumo, kepha ungacabanga ukusenza ngosizo lodokotela wakho, uma kungenzeka.
Isehlukaniso esivela ku-BPD (i-borderline personality disorder)
Ulifakazela kanjani ijaji ukuthi umuntu ophambi kwakho, obonakala ephilile futhi enesidima, uzoba nolaka ngendlela engalindelekile lapho ephuma enkantolo?
Abantu abane-BPD ngabantu abanezici eziyinhloko ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo, ukungazinzi ekuzibonakaliseni, ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu kanye nokuzwela okuphawulekayo nokuphawulekayo, ngaphezu kwezinye izimpawu eziningi nokuhlukahluka okubalulekile komuntu ngamunye (imizwa engapheli yokuba yize, ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo kaningi nangesikhathi esifushane, intukuthelo engalingani, ukuziphatha okungacabangi: utshwala, izidakamizwa, ukuzitika ngotshwala, ukuthenga, ukushayela budedengu, ukuziphatha okuxekethile, njll.) , ukuzilimaza, imizamo yokuzenzela wena, ubudlelwano obunobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu, njll.
Bangabantu abahlupheka kakhulu ngaphakathi futhi abasabela ngokwedlulele (abanamakhono amancane: konke noma lutho, abamnyama noma abamhlophe, njalo noma abangakaze.), Basebenzisa izindlela zokuziphatha ukwehlisa ukwesaba kwangaphakathi ngezindlela ezilimaza bona nabanye.
Bahlupheka kakhulu: imibhangqwana, amakhosikazi, izingane zakubo, nabazali, futhi laba bangahlushwa ukuphazamiseka okukhulu kwengqondo (ukukhathazeka, ukudangala, njll.) .
Ezimweni lapho umuntu othintekile engazimisele ukungena ohlelweni lokungenelela kwe-psychotherapeutic ne-psychopharmacological yizinsizakalo zezempilo yengqondo nalapho impilo yabanye isengcupheni, izinyathelo ezizothathwa zizohlala njalo zivikela owokugcina.
Kufanele kube nezinyathelo eziyimpoqo zokuzama ukwelapha lezi ziguli ekwelashweni ngokwelashwa kwengqondo ngoba iningi lazo liyasazi isidingo, kepha zesaba ukuthi ngeke zikwazi ukwenza ngcono.
Amathiphu
ICEBISO 1: Uma uthatha isinqumo sokwehlukanisa, kwenze ngokuqinile futhi ngokushesha. Ungalokothi ubonise ubuthakathaka ngoba buzokwenza noma yini ukukubuyisa noma ngabe uzama ukuzibulala. Ungahlala kude nokukhohliswa kwakhe?
ICEBISO 2: Uma umuhle, qaphela. I-TLP ihlale imnandi lapho zilungiselela ukuhlasela. Qaphela uma emuhle ngoba uzozithola usesimweni sobuthakathaka, futhi bazokushaya. Hlala ugxile esahlukanisweni sakho futhi ungaweli emaqhingeni abo noma ekukhohliseni ngokomzwelo ngokungangabazeki abazokusebenzisa.
ICEBISO 3: Zilungiselele ukuvikela izingane zakho ekuhlushweni ubuchopho. Lapho ingane yakho ibuyela kuwe, kuzofanele ulalele izingane zakho zikutshele zonke izinto ezimbi i-TLP yakho yangaphambilini ekushoyo ngawe. Kufanele uziphathe ngokwemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ungalokothi ukhulume phansi ngezingane zakho ngomlingani wakho wangaphambili, kodwa zichazele zona ukuthi kwenzekani uma unenkinga lapho ingane yakho ivakashele lowo owayengumlingani wakho.
ICEBISO 4: Qasha ummeli ongakhokha futhi ozokuvikela ngamandla, ngoba ama-TLP angabaqambimanga be-pathological, ama-manipulators, futhi cishe azokucasula bese ekubika ngamanga, esebenzisa izinkantolo ukukudicilela phansi. Imvamisa banamawala futhi babanjwa ngokushesha. Babanjwa ngamanga abo. Zama ukuxhumana njalo nge-imeyili esikhundleni sezingcingo, kanye namahhovisi wezokuxhumana ngokuphathelene nezingane ukuze kubhalwe phansi uma kwenzeka udinga ukukuvikela ngelinye ilanga.
ICEBISO 5: Setha imithetho nezimiso. Imithetho nokwakheka kufana neKryptonite ye-TLP. Namathela emithethweni futhi ungalokothi uyiphule, uma kungenjalo uzoba nezaba ezinhle zokuyibika. Khombisa ingane yakho ukuthi i-TLP ayithembekile ngezenzo zayo. Yiba yitshe lengane yakho, futhi ukhumbule ukuthi babophezelekile ukuba ne-TLP empilweni yabo ingunaphakade.
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