Yini evunyelwe embhedeni womshado?
Umbhede womshado wamaKristu . Ukusondelana kungaphezu kwesenzo somzimba. Ukusondelana okuhle kubonakalisa ubuhlobo obuhle. Kungukugcotshwa kokulungile emshadweni omuhle. IBhayibheli liyakwenqabela ukuya ocansini nomuntu ongashadile naye. Uma ujabulile noMngane wakho womshado kunoma yikuphi (isenzo sobulili obuseduze) kulungile, awunaso isono.
1) UKUSONDELANA OKUJABULISAYO KWABASHADILE -
Ososayensi bezenhlalakahle ngokuvamile bahlukanisa impilo kulezi zindawo ezilandelayo ezisithonya ukuba siphile impilo enokulinganisela kahle:
· Komphakathi
· Ezomzwelo
· Ubuhlakani
· Ezingokomoya
Emzimbeni
Indawo yemvelo ifaka nokuhlangenwe nakho okusondelene kwezithandani.
Yini evunyelwe embhedeni womshado?. Ekhuluma ngokusondelana, abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ukusondelana yikho konke emshadweni. Abantu abaningi balindele ukuthi ubuhlobo obuseduze obuhle kakhulu bube yisisekelo somshado omuhle, kepha akunjalo ngempela. Okuphambene kuyinto efanele: ubuhlobo obuhle bomshado buyisisekelo sobuhlobo obuhle bokusondelana.
Ukusondelana kuyisipho esivela kuNkulunkulu sezingane zabo; Usidale saba nemicabango yokusondelana.
IBhayibheli lithi: U-Adamu wamazi umkakhe u-Eva, owakhulelwa wazala uKayini uGenesise 4: 1. Ukwazi emiBhalweni Engcwele kusho ubudlelwane obuseduze. Ngakho-ke, kungaqondakala ukuthi yize likhuluma ngesenzo somzimba, leli vesi lisho ulwazi olufaka phakathi ukwabelana, ukuvumelana, nokuziveza ngokuphelele omunye komunye.
Lokho ngukugcwala kwenyunyana yokusondelana. Kungani? Ngoba ngobudlelwano obuseduze, bobabili owesilisa nowesifazane, bayatshelana noma batholane kunanini ngaphambili, ukuze bakwazi ukuxhumana emazingeni ajule kakhulu empilo.
Ukwaneliseka kokusondelana okunempilo kungumphumela wokuzwana okubusa kwezinye izindawo emshadweni.
Kuphela lapho umbhangqwana ufunda okushiwo uthando lweqiniso, lapho bobabili bemukelana njengoba benjalo, lapho besebenzelana nobuciko bokwazisana, lapho befunda imigomo yokuxhumana okusebenzayo, lapho bethatha ukungafani ngakunye nezinto abazithandayo, lapho bezivumelanisa ebudlelwaneni obubekezelelanayo benhlonipho nokwethembana, kulapho-ke lapho bengalindela ukuthola isipiliyoni sokwanelisana esanelisayo.
U-Alla Fromme ubhekisa esenzweni sokusondelana njenge- ingxoxo yomzimba , okusho ukuthi umzimba nobuntu balaba bobabili buyahlangana ngesikhathi sobumbano lokusondelana.
Ukuze kube nokulungiswa kokusondelana, ngemuva komshado, kubalulekile ukuvumela isikhathi sidlule. Lokhu kukhathaza imibhangqwana eminingi ebicabanga ukufeza ukuzwana okusheshayo. Olunye ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi imibhangqwana engaphansi kwama-50% ithola ukwaneliseka ekuqaleni kwempilo yayo yomshado.
Izindawo ezine zokusondelana ezibalulekile ekwaneliseni ukusondelana
Izici ezine zobudlelwano ezinomthelela ekusondeleni okuhle
1 - Ubuhlobo bomlomo
Lokhu kubandakanya ukufunda ukwazi owakwakho ngengxoxo, ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu kwabesifazane abaningi abavame ukufuna ukuxhumana kakhulu nabalingani babo ngokusondelana ngamazwi ngaphambi kokuba bajabulele isenzo somzimba.
2 - Ubudlelwano Bemizwa
Ukwabelana ngokuhlanganyela imizwa ejulile ubuhlobo obungokomzwelo, obubalulekile ekwaneliseni ukusondelana. Ngokuyinhloko kwabesifazane, ngoba baphendula kangcono ebuhlotsheni obuseduze lapho bonke ubuhlobo buvulekile futhi bethandana lapho bezwa ukuthi abayeni babo bayayiqonda futhi bayayazisa imizwa yabo.
3 - Ubuhlobo Bomzimba
Lapho ucabanga ngobudlelwano obungokwenyama, zizwe kakhulu ngokuthintwa, ukuphululwa, ukwangana, ukwanga nokuthandana. Uhlobo olufanele lokuxhumana ludedela ukugeleza okumnandi nokuphulukisayo okunezakhi zamakhemikhali emzimbeni wabo bobabili obathintayo nabathintwayo. Lo mbhangqwana uhola kakhulu uma omunye efinyelela komunye ngendlela efanele.
4 - Ubudlelwano Obungokomoya
Ubudlelwano obungokomoya bungaba yizinga eliphakeme lokusondelana. Indoda nowesifazane bangazana lapho bobabili bephendukela kuNkulunkulu futhi bemazi ngokusuka enhliziyweni kuya enhliziyweni. Ukusondelana okungokomoya kungatholakala lapho umbhangqwana uthandaza ndawonye; bakhonza ndawonye futhi bavame ukuhlangana ndawonye esontweni. Ubudlelwano obungokomoya bubandakanya ukwazana ngokomongo wokholo okwabiwe ngalo.
Khumbula ukuthi ukusebenza kobuhlobo buhlobene ngqo nazo zonke izindawo zemizwa yethu. Uma bazisana njengomuntu futhi ngenjabulo, sihlangabezana nezidingo zansuku zonke kwezinye izingxenye zempilo; sizoba nobuhlobo obuseduze obuqinile nobusabekayo. Izinga lapho sithola ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano bobabili mhlawumbe liyinkomba yokuthi sikhulumisana kahle kangakanani, sinentshisekelo, sithembekile, siyajabula futhi sizizwa sikhululekile komunye nomunye.
Kokubili,
Thatha isinyathelo sokusondelana
Kokubili abesilisa nabesifazane bayakwazisa lokhu. Ukushintsha kwejubane kuqinisa ulwazi lwabashadikazi.
Nakekela ukubukeka kwakho
Umlingani wakho uzokwazisa umzamo wakho wokuheha.
Bekela eceleni isikhathi esithe xaxa sokuthola injabulo kusondelene - Ungasheshi. Yenza lo mhlangano ube ngumzuzu ongavamile kuwe.
Naka imvelo
Kufanele kube nobumfihlo ngoba akekho umuntu okufanele aphazamise lowo mzuzu. Indawo kufanele ilungiswe ngendlela engcono kakhulu ukuze ikwazi ukunikeza ukuhlangana okuhle kakhulu (umculo othambile, amalambu aphansi, umbhede ohlelwe kahle, umoya onephunga); Konke kubalulekile.
Veza izifiso zakho
Sebenzisa amagama afana nalawa: Ngiyakuthanda, ngiyakudinga, ngiyahlanya ngawe, Umuhle, bengizokushada futhi. Lawa magama anamandla amakhulu wokuvuselela. Tshela umlingani wakho kaningi la magama bese umkhombisa ukuthi ukujabulela kangakanani ukuba naye.
Imvamisa yomsebenzi wokusondelana
Izinga lokusondelana lincike ezicini eziningana ezinjengobudala, impilo, ingcindezi yezenhlalo, umsebenzi, izimo ezingokomzwelo, amandla okuxhumana ngezinkinga ezihlobene nokusondelana, njll.
Abashadikazi nguyena okumele anqume ngokwezimo zabo, ukuthi bazohlangana kangaki eduze. Lokhu kungahluka kusuka kumbhangqwana kuya kumbhangqwana, kuye ngesimo kuya kwesimo, kanye nangesikhathi nesikhathi.
Akekho kubo okufanele, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, aphoqe omunye ukuthi enze lokho omunye angafuni, ngoba uthando aluphoqi, kepha kunalokho luyahlonipha. Khumbula ukuthi ukuya ocansini kuyisenzo esingokomzimba, esingokomzwelo nesingokomoya.
KUPHELA KWABESIFAZANE
Qonda isidingo sakhe sokusondelana
Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ufuna ukuhlobana ngokusondelana nomyeni wakho noma ngabe izindawo ezine zobudlelwano ezisondelene esezihlaziyiwe azikho endaweni efanelekile. Ngalesi sizathu, ungazincishi leli thuba uma uzwa sengathi izidingo zakho azifeziwe.
Ungancishi umyeni wakho ubumnandi bokuxhumana obuseduze nawe
Kwesinye isikhathi, amakhosikazi okungazange kuhlangatshezwane nawo ngezidingo zawo noma imibono yawo ingabuyiswanga, babona sengathi banelungelo lokujezisa abayeni babo, ukugwema, ukwenqaba ukwenza ucansi. Khumbula ukuthi ungahle ube nomthelela ebangeni eliphakathi kwakho, upholise umoya, futhi ubuphule nobudlelwano.
Owesifazane akanamandla emzimbeni wakhe, kodwa ngumyeni; Futhi indoda ayinalo igunya phezu komzimba wayo, kodwa ngumfazi. Ningaphikisani, ngaphandle kokuthi kube yisikhathi esithile ngokuvumelana, ukuze nihlanganyele ngomthandazo buthule; nibuye nibe munye, ukuze uSathane anganiyengi ngenxa yokungakwazi kwenu ukuzibamba. I KwabaseKorinte 7: 4,5.
Thola ukuthi yini ayithandayo
Indoda iyavevezela lapho umkayo embuza ukuthi ufunani ngokusondelana futhi azame ukumenelisa. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uvule isandla sezinkolelo zakho zomuntu siqu noma zangasese zemisebenzi yokusondelana oyibona icasula ngoba kunemikhawulo ebudlelwaneni obusondelene emshadweni. Kepha ungakhohlwa ukuthi ungenza izinto eziningi umyeni wakho azicabangayo engqondweni yakhe ongamnika zona futhi ujabule ngalokhu.
Zazise ngendlela esondelene
Sebenzisa lezo zikhathi zemilingo lapho ugeza ngamanzi okuphumula, ugqoka okuthile okushisayo, usakaze amakha amancane nxazonke, wehlise ukukhanya egumbini, ufake umculo wezothando, ngamafuphi, ulungiselele indawo isikhashana esikhethekile. Impela umyeni wakho uzozwa injabulo njengawe. Le yindlela yokufaka isandla ukuze kube nokuhlukahluka, okuwusizo kakhulu futhi okunempilo empilweni yokusondelana.
Sivame ukukhuluma ngokuya ocansini njengokwenza uthando. Ngokweqiniso, lokhu akulona iqiniso. Ukuhlangana kwemizimba emibili akukwazi ukwenza uthando. Kungabonisa kuphela futhi kucebise uthando oselukhona vele. Futhi ikhwalithi yesipiliyoni izoncika kwikhwalithi yothando evezwe uDavid R Mace encwadini yakhe ethi Who God United.
Umshado uyahlonishwa kukho konke, nombhede awunasici; kepha izifebe neziphingi uNkulunkulu uyakuzahlulela amaHeberu 13: 4.
Abazibiza ngamaKrestu akufanele bangene ebudlelwaneni bomshado kuze kube lolu daba selucutshungulwe kahle, ngomkhuleko, nangombono ophakeme, ukubona ukuthi ngabe le nyunyana ingamdumisa uNkulunkulu yini. Ngemuva kwalokho, kufanele bacabangele okufanele ngomphumela welungelo ngalinye lobudlelwano bomshado; futhi isimiso esingcwelisiwe kufanele sibe yisisekelo saso sonke isenzo.- RH, Septhemba 19, 1899.
KUPHELA KWAMADODA
Yiba nothando - Abesifazane bayathanda ukuzizwa bethandwa, behlonishwa, bethandwa, futhi bethathekile. Izimbali, amakhadi, amanothi, noma isipho esincane kungaveza umphumela omangazayo. Khumbula ukuthi uma ufuna ukuhlangana okuhle kakhulu nowakwakho ebusuku, ukulungiselela kuzoqala ngezikhathi zokuqala zosuku. Ungakhohlwa futhi ukuthi abesifazane bakhangwa yilokho abakuzwayo.
Ungasheshi
Ngeke ulahlekelwe yilutho uma uchitha isikhathi esiningi uthinta, ugona futhi uphulula umkakho. Mbuze ukuthi uthanda ukuthintwa kuphi futhi kanjani futhi abe nozwela ngezidingo zakhe. Khumbula ukuxhumana naye ngokukhululeka nge-caresses engaholeli ekusondelaneni. Mncome, mtshele ukuthi umfuna kangakanani, futhi umange ngokuzithandela.
Yiba nokusondelana
Angiqondile ngalokhu ukuthi kumele ube nomzimba osebenze kahle. Ngiqonde ukuthi ngihlanzeke, ngibe nephunga, ngishefe (abanye besifazane abazithandi intshebe), ne-cologne, amashidi amasha embhedeni, nomculo othambile wezothando ngemuva.
Gxila ekwaneliseni umkakho
Khumbula ukuthi uvuselelwa yilokho okubonayo, futhi ngokuzenzekelayo, ulungele ubuhlobo obuseduze. Indoda ifana nomlilo wegesi, kungekudala iyashisa, kanti owesifazane ufana nomlilo wezinkuni, kuthatha isikhathi esithe xaxa, kuze kube yimizuzu engama-40. Ngakho-ke linda aze akunikeze isinali lokuthi ujabule kakhulu ukuze ngokubambisana, bakwazi ukufinyelela ku-orgasm.
Sivame ukukhuluma ngokuya ocansini njengokwenza uthando. Ngokweqiniso, lokhu akulona iqiniso. Ukuhlangana kwemizimba emibili akukwazi ukwenza uthando. Kungabonisa kuphela futhi kucebise uthando oselukhona vele. Ezingeni lesipiliyoni kuzoya ngekhwalithi yothando oluzwakalayo, uDavid R Mace encwadini yakhe ethi Who God United.
Umshado uyahlonishwa kukho konke, nombhede awunasici amaHeberu 13: 4.
Okuqukethwe
- Yini evunyelwe embhedeni womshado?
- Izindawo ezine zokusondelana ezibalulekile ekwaneliseni ukusondelana
- 1 - Ubuhlobo bomlomo
- 2 - Ubudlelwano Bemizwa
- 3 - Ubuhlobo Bomzimba
- 4 - Ubudlelwano Obungokomoya
- Kokubili,
- Thatha isinyathelo sokusondelana
- Nakekela ukubukeka kwakho
- Naka imvelo
- Veza izifiso zakho
- Imvamisa yomsebenzi wokusondelana
- KUPHELA KWABESIFAZANE
- Qonda isidingo sakhe sokusondelana
- Ungancishi umyeni wakho ubumnandi bokuxhumana obuseduze nawe
- Thola ukuthi yini ayithandayo
- Zazise ngendlela esondelene
- KUPHELA KWAMADODA
- Ungasheshi
- Yiba nokusondelana
- Gxila ekwaneliseni umkakho