Ingabe UNkulunkulu Uzowubuyisa Umshado Wami Ngemva Kokuphinga?

Ngabe uNkulunkulu uzowubuyisa umshado wami ngemuva kokuphinga? . UNkulunkulu ubuyise umshado wami emva kokwehlukana .

Okufanele ukwenze uma kukhona ukungathembeki ku- umshado ? Kunezinketho ezimbili: ukuphela noma ukuzama ukwenza ifayela le- umsebenzi wobudlelwano .

Uma ususithathile isinqumo sesibili, lapha sikulethela amathiphu azokukhombisa ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani lungisa umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki, okufanele ukwenze uma kwenzeka kungathembeki emshadweni nokuthi ungamthola kanjani unkosikazi wakho (noma) ngemuva kokwehlukana:

1. Qedela ukuzidela

Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukuqeda isithandwa sakho. Sekwenziwe umonakalo owanele. Ngakho-ke uma unethemba lokusindisa umshado wakho, zibophezele ekuqedeni konke ukuxhumana. Lokhu kuzodala umuzwa wokulondeka koshade naye.

Uma kwenzeka usebenza nesithandwa sakho sakudala, gcina ubudlelwane busebenza ngokuqinile futhi uxhumana nomlingani wakhokonkelokho kwenzeka phakathi nosuku: kusuka kuzingcingo, imihlangano ngisho nokuzama ukubatshela konke lowo owayekade ekhuluma naye ekhuluma nawe. Lokhu kuzosiza ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana emshadweni ophulwe ukungathembeki.

2. Funa ukuthethelelwa kuNkulunkulu nakuzakwenu

Ingabe uNkulunkulu uyawuhlonipha umshado ngemuva kokuphinga?Ekubonisweni kobuKristu ngokungathembeki, kunamavesi athile okuthi ungakuthethelela kanjani ukungathembeki emshadweni ngokweBhayibheli:

• Kunalokho, yibani nomusa nobubele komunye nomunye, futhi nithethelelane, njengoba nje noNkulunkulu anithethelela kuKristu. Kwabase-Efesu 4:35
• Uma abantu bami, ababizwa ngegama lami, bezithoba futhi bathandaze, futhi bafune futhi bashiye ukungaziphathi kahle kwabo, ngizomlalela ngisezulwini, ngibaxolele isono sabo ngibuyisele umhlaba wabo. Imilando emibili 7:14
• Lowo ofihla isono sakhe akasoze aphumelela; noma ngubani oyivumayo ayishiye, uthola intethelelo. IzAga 28:13

Iseluleko kwabangathembekile

Phenduka ngokusuka enhliziyweni. Okokuqala, funa intethelelo kaNkulunkulu ngokwephula izifungo zakho bese owakwakho wokumkhaphela.

Thandaza, noma ucabanga, Ungangisiza kanjani umkhuleko wokusindisa umshado wami? Lokhu kuthulisa ingqondo nemicabango yakho, kukwenze ubonakalise kahle.

Khuluma noNkulunkulu uthi, Lo ngumkhuleko wokubuyisa umshado wami. Ngiyaxolisa. Ngicela ungisize ungitshele ukuthi ngingawubuyisa kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki.

Iseluleko sabakhohlisiwe

Thandazela uNkulunkulu ukuthi akuqondise enqubeni yokuthethelelwa nokwelashwa emshadweni.

Ungazibuza ukuthi uzokuxolela kanjani ukungathembeki emshadweni, kepha zama ukubeka eceleni ubuhlungu bese ucabanga ngezikhathi ezimnandi oye waba nazo nomlingani wakho ukuze nikwazi ukupholisa inxeba. Akukho okungenzeki kuNkulunkulu, uma sikucela ngokusuka enhliziyweni.

Ukungathembeki emthethweni akumele kube ukuphela, ngakho-ke uma ufuna indlela yokubhekana nomshado ngemuva kokungathembeki, sikunikeza izeluleko ezilandelayo ezizonifundisa nobabili ukuthi niqhubeke kanjani:

3. Khuluma ngokuthembeka okuphelele nomlingani wakho

Ukwethenjwa kwephuliwe, futhi lowo ngomunye wemiphumela yokungathembeki emshadweni. Inqubo yokuyibuyisa ihamba kancane futhi ingafinyelelwa kuphela ngokusobala okuphelele okuvela kuzo zombili izinhlangothi.

Iseluleko kwabangathembekile

Uma uzibuza, Ngikuthola kanjani ukuthembana komlingani wami ngemuva kokuqamba amanga? Qala ngokuthembeka. Akudingeki ukuthi utshele yonke imininingwane yothando lomlingani wakho, kodwa kufanele uzimisele ukuphendula noma imuphi umbuzo abawubuzayo, ngisho nalowo osobala kakhulu futhi ongaziwa.

Lungela uhlobo lwemishwana ngokungathembeki emshadweni, njengokuthi: Yini anayo engingenayo? Kungani wenze lokhu kimi? Ngabe uyiqedile yonke i-adventure?

Iseluleko sabakhohlisiwe

Cacisa yonke imibuzo eza ekhanda lakho futhi uhlale ukhumbula ukuthi noma ngabe ulimele, umlingani wakho naye ulimele, yize ngenye indlela, ngoba akafuni ukulahlekelwa nguwe yize enze amaphutha.

Zama ukulinganisela imizwa yakho nesidingo solwazi, ngoba imininingwane eminingi onayo ngothando umlingani wakho abenalo, kulapho lezo zithombe ziziphinda ekhanda lakho futhi kuzothatha isikhathi eside ukululama. Ngokuthi ungakulapha kanjani ukungathembeki, sikweluleka ukuthi uzelaphe wena kuqala.

4. Zibophezele ngo-100% ukusindisa umshado wakho

Impendulo yokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ukusindisa umshado wami? ukuzibophezela okuphelele ngoba ngisho nasemishadweni engadluli ekuthembekeni, bobabili indoda nomfazi kufanele bazinikele ngokuphelele komunye nomunye. Uthando lweqiniso luphumelela kuphela ngokuzinikela okuphelele.

Iseluleko kwabangathembekile

Yebo, umshado ungasindiswa ngemuva kokungathembeki. Kepha qala ngokuzibophezela kuwe, uzibekele umgomo wokonga umshado wakho, ukuvuselela izifungo zakho, nokubuyisa ukwethenjwa ngumlingani wakho.

Kumele umkhombise ukuthi uzibophezele kangakanani, wenza noma yini edingekayo. Lokho kufaka ukubekezela, ukuthobeka, ukwamukela ukuthi wenze iphutha, ukusondela kulo ngesineke, nokuqonda ukusabela nemizwa yabo.

Amathiphu wabakhohlisiwe

Unelungelo lokuthukuthela kodwa zama ngangokunokwenzeka ukuthi ungasebenzisi ulaka lwakho ukujezisa umlingani wakho ngamazwi nangezenzo ezinenzondo.

Ungajabula ngemuva kokungathembeki. Kumele ugcine engqondweni: Ngifuna ukubuyisa umshado wami ngoba ngiyamthanda umlingani wami. Futhi funa izizathu zokuthi kungani kufanele uthethelele ukungathembeki emshadweni bese uhlala eceleni kwakho.

5. Yiba nesineke kumlingani wakho: umsize aphole

I-psychology yomshado isitshela ukuthi isimo sokungathembeki sithinta bobabili abathintekayo. Ngakho-ke ukukopela nokukhohlisa bobabili kufanele basekelane ukuze belaphe futhi babuyise ngempumelelo umshado osenkingeni.

Iseluleko sabakhohlisiwe

Into yokuqala ukuphuma ekhanda lakho: Ngilahlekelwe ngumlingani wami ngokungathembeki. Funa izincwadi zokungathembeki emshadweni kanye nezimpawu zemishado esenkingeni yokungathembeki, ukuqonda kangcono ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nobudlelwano ngemuva kokungathembeki kanye nayo yonke inqubo ebandakanyekile kulesi simo.

Sincoma nokuthi uye kumelaphi, eqenjini lesonto, noma ukhulume nabangane osondelene nabo ukuze ukwazi ukuthukuthela futhi bakunikeze izeluleko zokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomshado ngemuva kokungathembeki.

Iseluleko kwabangathembekile

Njengoba inqubo ihlukile kwabesilisa nabesifazane, sizoyichaza kanjena:

• Ukungathembeki emshadweni owesilisa. Abesifazane banemizwelo kakhulu, futhi singenza ngezindlela ezimbili: sizivale ezingqondweni zethu noma siveze konke esikuzwayo. Uma unkosikazi wakho enza njengowokuqala, mnike isikhala sakhe ekuqaleni, kodwa ke zama ukukhuluma naye.
• Ukungathembeki kwabesifazane emshadweni. Ngokuvamile amadoda ayahamba lapho ezwa ubuhlungu; kungumzwelo wakho wokuzivikela. Zama ngangokunokwenzeka ukumthola futhi ube lapho ngaye noma nini lapho akudinga khona. Ungambalekeli noma umhlukumeze ngamazwi. Yiba nothando futhi ubekezele.

6. Yakha kabusha ukwethembana

Yini okufanele ngiyenze ukubuyisa umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki? Ungamphatha kanjani umlingani wami ngemuva kokungathembeki? Kunganqotshwa ukungathembeki emshadweni? Ngabe yimibuzo esizibuza yona uma sikulesi simo.

Iqiniso ukuthi ubudlelwano bungasebenza ngemuva kokungathembeki, kepha kudinga umsebenzi omningi ukubuyisa ukuzethemba kowakwakhe okhohlisiwe.

Iseluleko sabakhohlisiwe

Siyazi ukuthi ulimele ngoba ukukopela emshadweni akulula ukubekezelela, kepha kancane kancane, kufanele ufunde ukwethemba oshade naye futhi.

Ekuqaleni, kuyaqondakala ukuthi ufuna ukwazi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi ukhona nobani, hlola ifoni yakho namanethiwekhi omphakathi. Kepha kancane kancane, kufanele uyeke ukukwenza, ngenxa yakho, kothandana naye nalokho kobuhlobo jikelele. Uma kunesidingo, sebenza nomelaphi.

Iseluleko kwabangathembekile

Ngeke kwanele ngawe ukuthi uthi, Thembela kimi. Khombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ufuna ngempela ukubuyisa umshado wakho. Kuyinqubo ehamba kancane ezodinga ukubekezela kwakho nokuthi ufunde ukuvumela.

Uma umcabango wakho wansuku zonke uthi, ngifuna ukusindisa umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki, ngisuse amanga nezimfihlo empilweni yakho. Thembeka, mbuze uma unemibuzo, futhi ube nothando.

7. Khombisa uzwela

Ithiphu ejwayelekile yokuthi ungasiza kanjani umshado osenkingeni uzwela. Ukubuyiselwa kwemishado ehlukene kuqala ngokuqonda ukuthi omunye uzizwa kanjani, ukuze abanikeze ukwesekwa abakudingayo nokuthi ngokubambisana bayasinqoba lesi simo.

Iseluleko sabakhohlisiwe

Ayikho inhlamvu yomlingo yokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokungathembeki emshadweni, kepha uma oshade naye enza konke okusemandleni ukusindisa umshado ezinkingeni, ungabi nokhahlo kuye.

Ungamsoli. Ungasho amagama alimazayo, futhi ungakhipheli lonke ulaka lwakho kumlingani wakho. Lokho ngeke kuxazulule noma yini.

Iseluleko kwabangathembekile

Uma uhlala uzibuza ukuthi: ungakuthola kanjani ukuzethemba ngemuva kokungathembeki? Ngoba ukuqonda nomlingani wakho kungenye yezindlela. Zama ukuqonda indlela ozizwa ngayo bese ucabanga ukuthi ungathanda ukuphathwa kanjani kuleso simo ukube ubungumlingani wakho.

Ungahle uzibuze, Ngabe zikhona izeluleko zokuwina umlingani wami emuva? Yebo, kufanele wazi ukuthi indlela engcono kakhulu ukuba nozwela, uthando nokuba nesineke.

8. Ungalindeli ukubuyisana okusheshayo noma okulula

Uma ufuna ukwazi amathiphu okuthi ungabubuyisa kanjani ubudlelwano ngemuva kokungathembeki ngokushesha noma kalula, kufanele sikutshele ukuthi awekho amasu alokho. Insika eyisisekelo, eyi-trust, yephuliwe, futhi ukuyibuyisa akuyona into elula.

Uma kunguwe owenze icala, sikuxwayisa ngokuthi kufanele ulindele intukuthelo, intukuthelo, nezinyembezi kumlingani wakho. Elinye icebo esingakunika lona lokuthi ungawutakula kanjani umshado wakho yile: ukubekezela. Bazoba nezinsuku ezinhle nezimbi, kepha kufanele bahlale bekhumbula umcabango owodwa: Ngifuna ukusindisa umshado wami.

Iseluleko kwabangathembekile

Mhlawumbe uyazibuza, Ngimenza kanjani owakwami ​​athandane futhi? Kwenze ngemininingwane emincane nsuku zonke, ngokubekezela, uthando, nokwethembeka. Kancane kancane, uzobe ukufeza. Vele ube nokholo lokuthi izinto zizolunga.

9. Cela ukwesekwa

Xhuma nomndeni, abangani, futhi uthole neqembu losizi ongajoyina, njengalawo asemabandleni obuKristu. Lokhu kuzobasiza bazizwe bengakhungathekile kakhulu ngenkathi baphakathi kokungathembeki emshadweni wamaKristu.

Iya ekwelashweni kwezithandani futhi ufune lonke usizo ocabanga ukuthi ludingeka ukukufundisa ukuthi ungawakha kanjani kabusha umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki.

Iseluleko sabakhohlisiwe

Uma uzibuza, Ngingajabula kanjani emshadweni wami? Iya eqenjini lokukusiza ukukusiza ukhiphe yonke leyo mizwa emibi ukuze welaphe futhi uphinde ujabule.

Noma ngabe kwaba nokungathembeki ngaphambi komshado futhi manje sekuwukuthola, khuluma ngakho konke okuzwayo. Ungagcini lutho. Leyo ukuphela kwendlela yokuqeda izinhlungu.

10. Qonda ukuthi isilonda asisoze saphola ngokuphelele

Okunye kokukhombisa ukungathembeki emshadweni lesi simo okufanele sibashiyele bobabili ukuthi, noma bekwazi ukusinqoba, kuzohlala kunesibazi esijulile esizolimaza isikhathi nesikhathi nangaphezulu ezimeni ezicindezelayo.

Noma bengathola ukuthi kungani kunokungathembeki emshadweni bese bekuxazulula, awukwazi ukukhohlwa ukungathembeki emshadweni. Kuyisilonda esihlala enhliziyweni impilo yonke.

Yini ebhekwa njengokungathembeki emshadweni?

Kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuthi yini nokuthi yini okungeyona isenzo sokungathembeki, yize kuncike ebudlelwaneni ngabunye. Ngokuvamile, singakutshela ezinye zezimo zengqondo ezivame kakhulu:

• Uma umlingani wakho ehlela ukucathamela umuntu othile, ikakhulukazi ezindaweni okungezona ezomphakathi.
• Unephrofayili esebenzayo kumasayithi wokuphola noma wokuphola.
• Sebenzisa isenzo socansi nabanye abantu.
• Uma ikutshela ukuthi izwela okuthile komunye umuntu.
• Bayagonana futhi baqabule abanye abantu, futhi kukhombisa ukuthi izinhloso zabo akukhona nje ukuthanda.

Ungazi kanjani ukuthi kukhona ukungathembeki emshadweni?

Uma usola ukuthi umlingani wakho unenkosikazi, ngaphambi kokufuna ukuthi ungamnqoba kanjani umyeni wami (a) uma enesithandwa sakhe?), Sincoma ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi ukulesi simo, nezimo zengqondo esizibalulile wena. ukuqhubeka:

• Funa ukuba wedwa.
• Umona wakhe uyalawuleka, njengoba ubonakala kunoma yisiphi isimo sengqondo abanye abanaso nawe.
• Uvame ukwethuka ngaphandle kwesizathu.
• Kuba yimfihlakalo.

Ungabhekana kanjani nokungathembeki emshadweni?

Noma ngabe uzibonile noma cha izimpawu zokungathembeki emshadweni lapho uthola ngokusemthethweni ngalesi simo, ufaka isimo sokushaqeka nokungakholwa okungelula ukusinqoba, kepha sincoma okulandelayo:

1. Uma kunguwe owenze ukungathembeki, tshela umlingani wakho - ngomoya ophansi nangaphandle kokuphakamisa izwi lakho - okwenzekile futhi ulalele konke engikushoyo. Khumbula ukuthi enye yezindlela zokutakula umshado osenkingeni, ukuthembeka futhi.
2. Uma ukhohlisiwe kuye, zama ukudonsa umoya ngaphambi kokuphendula noma yini.
3. Ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo, zindla kahle kakhulu futhi isikhathi eside ukuthi yini ekufanele kakhulu. Kuhle ukuxolela ukungathembeki emshadweni, kuphela uma ucabanga ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzophinda uthembe umlingani wakho.
4. Ukuphunyuka isikhashana ngemuva kokukhuluma. Ngokuvamile, umshado uyasebenza ngemuva kokwehlukana, ngoba bakwazile ukupholisa amanxeba ngawodwana futhi bangagxila ekwelapheni ubudlelwano.

Kwenzekani ngemuva kokungathembeki emshadweni?

Into yokuqala ukuthi uchungechunge lwemibuzo ifika engqondweni: Yini engingayenza ukusindisa umshado wami ?, Ngingambuyisa kanjani owakwami? Ngingawusindisa kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki? , ungakunqoba kanjani ukungathembeki emshadweni?

Iqiniso ukuthi ayikho ifomula lomlingo noma umshini ngesikhathi wokwakha okulandelayo: amavoti nokwethembana kwephuliwe, ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi kube nokukhala, ukumemeza, ukuthula, kanye nokungezwani okukhulu phakathi kwalaba bobabili.

Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi kukhona ibanga, kepha ungakhathazeki, ngoba kaningi kuyinto edingekayo ukukwazi ukuphilisa nokuqhubeka nobudlelwano.

NgokweBhayibheli: Ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki?

Into yokuqala ukuthi bobabili kufanele bathandaze ngokusuka enhliziyweni futhi bahlale bekhumbula: uNkulunkulu angawubuyisela umshado wami.

Enye indlela yokubuyisa umshado wamaKristu ngukucabanga kweBhayibheli. Ezinye zazo yilezi:

• UMathewu 6:33. Kepha funa umbuso wakhe nobulungiswa bakhe kuqala, khona-ke zonke lezi zinto uzonezelwa zona.
• UJakobe 4: 4. O, imiphefumulo ephingayo! Anazi yini ukuthi ubungane bezwe buwubutha kuNkulunkulu? Ngakho-ke, lowo ofuna ukuba ngumngane wezwe uba yisitha sikaNkulunkulu.
• Marku 11:25. Futhi lapho uthandaza, uma unokuthile ngokumelene nomunye umuntu, mxolele ukuze uYihlo osezulwini, naye akuxolele izono zakho.

Umkhuleko wokusindisa umshado wami futhi uthethelele ukungathembeki

Uma uzibuza, Ngazi kanjani ukuthi uNkulunkulu ufuna ukubuyisa umshado wami ?, Uzoba nempendulo ngomkhuleko.

Singakubhalela umkhuleko womyeni ongathembekile, omunye umkhuleko wendoda ephingayo, nomkhuleko wendoda ephingayo, kepha sikholwa ukuthi awukho umthandazo osebenza njengalowo owenziwe ngokusuka enhliziyweni.

Hlala endaweni ethulile futhi ukhulume noNkulunkulu kube sengathi ubunaye ngaphambi kwakho. Mtshele izinsizi zakho nosizi lwakho. Zibeke ezandleni zakhe futhi uthembe ukuthi uzokwazi ukuthi uzokusiza kanjani.

Ngabe umshado usebenza ngemuva kokungathembeki okuningi?

Ngokwami, angicabangi ukuthi umshado ungasebenza ngemuva kokungathembeki okuningana ngoba uma ngesisodwa, kuhlale kunesibazi esincane, esinamaningana, isilonda sizoba sikhulu kakhulu ukuthi singaphola.

Ukungathembeki emshadweni kungaxolelwa, kepha abaningana abakwazi. Noma ngabe beyiloluhlobo nje lokungathembeki ngokomzwelo emshadweni, ukwethembana kudilika kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi kungabikho.

Ungaqala kanjani futhi ngemuva kokungathembeki?

Into yokuqala ukuthi bobabili kumele bazibophezele ekusebenzeni kakhulu ebudlelwaneni. Umbhangqwana owonayo kufanele unqamule konke ukuxhumana nomthandi wawo, kanti abakhohlisiwe kumele basebenzele ukuxolelwa futhi bafunde ukuthembana futhi.

Izincwadi ezikhuluma ngokungathembeki emshadweni zingakusiza uthathe izinyathelo ezizokufundisa ukuthi ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado osenkingeni.

Ungakusinda kanjani ukungathembeki emshadweni?

Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuthi ungabuthola kanjani ubudlelwano ngemuva kokungathembeki:

• Yakha ubuhlobo ngobuqotho nangokwethembeka.
• Yamukela okwenzekile, bese uzama ukukhohlwa okwenzekile. Ukukhumbula umzuzu nomzuzu akukuhle komunye wenu.
• Thola ukuthi kungani kunokungathembeki emshadweni. Lapho usungakwazi ukukuthola, sebenzela imbangela, ukuze kungaphindi kwenzeke.
• Hlela kabusha ubuhlobo bese uqhubeka.

Ngabe kungaba khona ukubuyiselwa komshado ngemuva kokuphinga?

Kuya ngesimo. Uma bobabili bezibophezela ekwakheni kabusha umshado futhi bebona ukuthi ngeke kube umsebenzi olula noma osheshayo, ubudlelwane bungalulama.

Uma kwenzeka ukuthi omunye walaba bobabili engazibopheli ngokusuka enhliziyweni noma enze umzamo odingekayo, noma uma sikunikeza amathiphu ayinkulungwane okuthi ungawusindisa kanjani umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki, uzokwazi ukubuyisa ubudlelwano. Umshado ubili futhi udinga ukuthi bobabili bazibophezele komunye nomunye.

Kufanele ngimphathe kanjani umyeni wami ngemuva kokungathembeki?

Uma ufuna izeluleko zokuthi ungakuphatha kanjani ukungathembeki emshadweni, njengoba ungazi kahle ukuthi wenzeni, lapha sikulethela eziningana:

1. Thatha umoya ojulile bese wehlise umoya ukuze ugweme ukwenza izinqumo ezimbi.
2. Bhekana naye bese umbuza konke ofuna ukukwazi. Kwenze ngezwi elipholile, ngaphandle kokumemeza noma ukubiza ngegama.
3. Thatha isikhathi kuye ukuze ugaye yonke into bese ucabanga ukuthi kufanele uxolele ukungathembeki emshadweni.

Ungamzuza kanjani umyeni wami emuva kokuthi esengikhohlisile?

Uma manje umbuzo wakho uthi: Ngingawubuyisa kanjani umshado wami uma umyeni wami engangithandi ?, Kufanele sikutshele ukuthi awukwazi ukugcina umshado lapho kungekho thando oluthintekayo.

Uma kwenzeka ucabanga ukuthi usenemizwa ngawe, amanye amathiphu wokuthi ungamzuza kanjani umyeni wami yile:

• Lungela. Mhlawumbe inkambiso iqeda uthando nesifiso sokubukeka kahle kuye. Ngakho-ke qala ukukwenzela, ukuze ukuzethemba kwakho kuphakame futhi akhangwe nguwe.
• Ungambangi. Unelungelo lokuzizwa uthukuthele futhi umtshele izinto, kodwa zama ukukwenza ngomoya ophansi ukuze azwisise okushoyo.
• Uma uzibuza, Yini engingayenza ukubuyisa umyeni wami? Esinye sezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu ukufuna uNkulunkulu. Akukona ukuthi ukhathazeka ngokweqile, kepha kuyazama ukugxila ekuphelelwe yithemba kwakho emsebenzini onempilo ngangokunokwenzeka.

Ungabubuyisa kanjani ubuhlobo ngemuva kokungathembeki?

Impumelelo ezimeni zangempela zokungathembeki emshadweni ukuthi bobabili basebenza kanzima ukuthola insika eyisisekelo yobudlelwano eyithemba. Ngalokhu, kufanele bazibophezele ngokuphelele ukukufeza.

Esinye sezizathu esenza ukungathembeki kwenzeke emshadweni ukuthi omunye walaba bobabili akazinikelanga ebudlelwaneni, ngakho-ke yilokho okufanele usebenze kakhulu.

Ungawubuyisa umshado ngemuva komonakalo ongaka?

Ngokuzibophezela bobabili, ukuzwana, nokusebenza kanzima, umshado ungatholwa ngemuva kokungathembeki. Amanye amathiphu esingakunika wona wokuthi ungawuthuthukisa kanjani umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki noma ukwahlukana yile:

• Iya ekwelashweni komuntu ngamunye nakwabashadikazi. Imvamisa, izimbangela zokungathembeki emshadweni zingaphakathi kozakwethu owonayo, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi usebenze ngaleyo mizwa, ukuze ungabuyeli esilingweni.
• Umbuzo wokuthi ukuxolela noma cha ukuxolela ukungathembeki emshadweni akufanele ubuzwe ukuthi ngabe yini umuntu akufunayo ukujabula nomlingani wakhe futhi.

Ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kokwehlukana?

Amanye amathiphu wemibhangqwana ehlukanisiwe ezokufundisa ukuthi ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado wakho ngemuva kokwehlukana yile:

• Qonda ukuthi ukwehlukana akufani nesehlukaniso. Imibhangqwana eminingi iyahlukana ukuze iphulukise amanxeba ayo yodwa, futhi lapho isilungile, iyajoyina, futhi ubuhlobo busebenza kangcono.
• Ngomzamo, ukubekezela, nokuzibophezela, ungagcina ubudlelwano ngemuva kokungathembeki.
• Nikeza umlingani wakho isikhala futhi uhloniphe ukuthula kwakhe. Oshade naye uzokufuna lapho efuna ukukhuluma.
• Uma ukhuluma naye, kwenze ngothando nangesineke. Ungayicindezeli noma uyihlulele.

Ungajabula kanjani emshadweni ngemuva kokungathembeki?

Uma ufuna ukuthi ubhekane kanjani nokungathembeki emshadweni uphinde ujabule futhi, sikunikeza iseluleko esihle kakhulu ongasithola: isikhathi siphulukisa konke.

Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kufanele uzisebenzele wena nobudlelwano bakho, kepha alikho ikhambi elingcono lezinhlungu kunokuvumela isikhathi sidlule, nesilonda siyaphola ngosizo lwezenzo zethu nezomlingani wethu.

Ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki?

Uma ucabanga, Umshado wami awusebenzi, ngenzani? Hlala uzolile futhi, okwesikhashana, uyeke ukufuna izimpendulo zokuthi ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado wakho ngemuva kokungathembeki. Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukuthembeka kumlingani wakho. Hlala phansi ukhulume endaweni ezolile futhi eyimfihlo.

Ngemuva kwengxoxo, nquma ukuthi iyiphi indlela ozoyithatha ukubuyisa umshado wakho; uma bezofuna ukwelashwa kwezithandani noma uma bezoya eqenjini lokwesekwa; uma bezohlukaniswa isikhashana noma uma bezohlala ndawonye ngaphansi kwesibopho sokungaphikisani.

Kungani ukungathembeki kwabesifazane emshadweni?

Ngaphambi kokuthi ufune ukwazi ukuthi ungawutakula kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki, kufanele ubuze ngezimbangela zokungathembeki kwabesifazane emshadweni. Kudlulela ngalé kwesifiso sobulili kwazise abesifazane ngokuvamile bahlela kahle kakhulu ukuthi ubani, kuphi, kanjani futhi kanjani abazokwenza isenzo sokuphinga.

Izimbangela zokungathembeki kwabesifazane emshadweni kungaba:

• Njengempindiselo yokungathembeki ngaphambi komshado.
• Ukuphunyuka enkambisweni bese ubuyela uzizwe ufisa futhi uyathandwa.
• Lapho owesifazane engathembekile emshadweni, imvamisa kungenxa yokuthi uzizwa enesizungu ngoba mhlawumbe awumnaki ukunakwa okwanele noma uthando aludingayo.

Ungamenza kanjani umkami athandane futhi?

Ngabe uyazibuza ukuthi ungambuyisa kanjani umkami ngemuva kokwehlukana noma ukuthi ulubuyisa kanjani uthando lomkami? Nawa amanye amathiphu okuthi ungabakhumbuza kanjani ngothando olubenze baba isibopho:

• Menze azizwe emuhle noma engekho. Mtshele ukuthi izingubo azigqokile zibukeka zizinhle kuye noma ukuthi uyazithanda izinwele zakhe ezicushisiwe.
• Yeka ukucabanga ngaso sonke isikhathi: ukuthi ungambuyisa kanjani umkami ngemuva kokungathembeki. Lokhu kuzokwenza wenze amaphutha.
• Buza ngosuku lwakhe futhi umlalele ngaphandle kokufuna ukuxazulula izinkinga zakhe.
• Mkhuthaze ukuthi afinyelele izinhloso zakhe. Mnikeze imininingwane nsuku zonke.

Ungalubuyisa kanjani uthando lomyeni wami?

Ungenza kanjani umyeni wami athandane futhi? noma ngenza kanjani ukuthi umyeni wami athandane nsuku zonke? mhlawumbe yizinkinga ezihlupha ikhanda lakho njalo. Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuthi ungambuyisa kanjani umlingani wakho ngemuva kokungathembeki:

• Suka kuye isikhashana. Ngakho-ke zibuze wena: ngingenza kanjani ukuthi umyeni wami athandane futhi uma ngingekho eduze kwakhe ?, Indaba ilula: uyeka ukumcabanga, futhi ususe engqondweni yakho umcabango wokuthi ungambuyisa kanjani umyeni wami uma enomunye umfazi. Ungamhlukumezi; uzizwa ungekho, bese uba yinto efiswayo.
• Qalisa kabusha oxhumana naye. Kuphela lapho eqala ukukufuna, ziveze uphephile, ujabule futhi uzethembile. Lesi sithombe sakho sizomenza akhumbule ukuthi kungani ake wakhetha wena ukuba abe ngumkakhe.

Ungambuyisa kanjani umyeni wami uma enesithandwa?

Siyazi ukuthi usemkhankasweni wokuthi ungamzuza kanjani umyeni wami, kepha ngokuphelelwa yithemba, ngeke uzuze lutho. Ngakho-ke into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukudabula lowo muzwa emzimbeni wakho.

Yekela ukufuna izeluleko zokubuyisa umyeni wami. Susa yonke imizwa engemihle kuwe (yecala, yentukuthelo, yokudabuka, yokuphelelwa yithemba) bese uqala ukucabanga ukuthi ungayibuyisa kanjani indoda yakho futhi, ngaphandle kokumncenga.

Zilungiselele. Thatha isikhathi kuye ukuze ubone ukuthi yini ayikho. Ungamsoli ngamaphutha akhe, futhi ungaphikisi. Ungalokothi ulahlekelwe isithunzi sakho lapho ubhekene nesithandwa sakho. Khumbula ukuthi ungomunye, futhi inkinga ekugcineni, ngumyeni wakho.

Yini okufanele uyenze ngemuva kokungathembeki emshadweni?

1. Cabanga ngempilo yakho. Zinike isikhathi sokucabanga ngalokho ofuna ukukwenza nokuthi yini ekufanele kakhulu. Cacisa imicabango yakho nemizwa yakho.
2. Uyaxolela. Kunconywa ukuthi sikunike lapho ufuna izindlela zokunqoba ukuvukela umbuso emshadweni. Ukuthola amacala akuyixazululi inkinga.
3. Uyakhuluma. Kusobala kancane, kepha kufanele ukhulume nomlingani wakho ngokuthembeka okuphelele nokuzola. Thola ukuthi kwenzakalani ngempela emshadweni wakho.
4. Vuselela ukuzenzekela kobudlelwano. Uma uzibuza, Ngiwusindisa kanjani umshado wami ebunzimeni? Enye indlela yokwenza lokhu ngokucabanga kabusha izinhloso zenu njengabantu abashadile bese nibuyela ezisekelweni zobudlelwano: ukuphola nemininingwane ekukhumbuza ukuthi kungani nihlangene.
5. Iya ekwelashweni kwezithandani. Kuyiseluleko se-cliche, kepha yisona esingcono kakhulu esingakunika sona, ukuze wazi ukuthi ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado wakho ngemuva kokungathembeki. Kuzobasiza ukuthi basebenze ekwakheni kabusha ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kwabo.

Ungalulama kanjani ekungathembekini emshadweni?

Sifunde impela ukubonakaliswa kokungathembeki emshadweni, kepha uma sibandakanyeka kulesi simo, sicabanga kuphela: Ngingawubuyisa kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kwalokhu?

Iqiniso alilula, kepha ngokuzibophezela kwabo bobabili, ungaphambili. Kufanele bazi ukuthi bazoba nezinsuku ezinhle nezimbi, ukuthi kuyinqubo ehamba kancane futhi ebuhlungu, ukuthi kufanele banikeze futhi bangadinga usizo oluvela ngaphandle.

Ungawuthuthukisa kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki?

Uma ungathembekile, into yokuqala ukucabanga ukuthi kungani ungathembeki emshadweni nokuthi yini okuholele ekutheni wephule izifungo zakho. Ngemuva kokungena ngaphakathi, funa usizo ukuze ugweme ukwenza leso senzo futhi. Zama ukuqonda umlingani wakho, uthembeke, uphendule engikubuza kona, futhi ufunde ukuyekethisa.

Uma kwenzeka ukhohlisiwe, yeka ukucabanga ngokuthi ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki. Sebenzela ukuxolelwa, bese uqhubekela phambili ekwakheni kabusha ubudlelwano bakho.

Amathiphu okubuyisa umshado wami

Lapha sikulethela izinyathelo ezinhlanu zokuthi ungawuthuthukisa kanjani umshado osenkingeni:

1. Khuluma nomlingani wakho nsuku zonke.
2. Khumbula ukuthi ucansi lubalulekile. Uma isikhathi eside bengakwenzi lokho, abesilisa bacabanga ukuthi abalingani babo abasenandaba nezocansi nabesifazane ukuthi abasakhangi kumlingani wabo.
3. Funda ukubona okuthile okuhle nsuku zonke kumlingani wakho bese umtshela.
4. Gxila ezinhlosweni enifana ngazo bese nisebenza kuzo. Kungaba kusuka ekusebenzeni ngokomzimba kuye kuphrojekthi yebhizinisi.
5. Thola umeluleki wemishado. Kungenzeka kube esontweni lakho noma kumelaphi. Okubalulekile ukuthi ube ngumuntu ochwepheshile kuleso sifundo futhi owaziyo ukuthi ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado osenkingeni.

Ungawuthola kanjani umshado ngemuva kokwehlukana?

1. Khuluma. Ukukhuluma ngakho konke okwenzekayo kusiza kakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi uma wawushadile, kungenxa yokuthi kwake kwaba nothando, futhi lokho akuyona into eyanyamalala ngokushesha; kugcwele kuphela ukuxhumana okungekuhle.
2. UPatten uxazulula izinkinga. Akufanele zishiyelwe isikhathi esizayo, kepha funa izixazululo ngokushesha lapho zivela ukuze zingaqongeleli intukuthelo noma zenze izinkumbulo ezimbi.
3. Veza. Sonke sinemibono engafani, kepha ukuhlala ndawonye njengabantu abashadile kusho ukufunda ukuvumela nokwamukela omunye njengoba enjalo, ngamandla nobuthakathaka bakhe. Uma uzibuza ukuthi ungawulungisa kanjani umshado wami, kubalulekile ukuthi ucabange ngakho.

Ungawubuyisa kanjani umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki?

Uma ungazi ukuthi ubhekane kanjani nokungathembeki emshadweni, kepha ufuna ukubuyisa ubudlelwano, landela lezi zeluleko:

• Yamukela okwenzekile. Awukwazi ukubuyela emuva ngesikhathi futhi uvimbele ukungathembeki. Yamukela imizwa yakho ukuze ukwazi ukuyisebenzela futhi unqobe ubuhlungu.
• Ziveze. Akunandaba ukuthi ukwenze kanjani, dedela konke ozizwa ngaphakathi. Uma ungumuntu owonile, vumela umlingani wakho asho konke azokusho futhi unganciphisi imizwa yakhe.
• Cabanga wedwa. Kuhle kini nobabili, kwabangathembekile ukuthi baqonde umonakalo awenzile nokuthi bakhohliswe bakwazi ukugaya konke okwenzekayo.
• Uyaxolela.

Siza ukugcina umshado wami: Izinyathelo ezi-3 zokwenza

1. Hlaziya ubuhlobo. Gxila ekuboneni ukungezwani kwakho, nowakwakho, nokwehluka, nezimo zengqondo. Zama ukubakhulumisa bese uhlala phansi nomlingani wakho ukuthola izixazululo ezingaba khona.
2. Zibophezele ebudlelwaneni. Hlalani ndawonye, ​​nikhulume yonke into, ningazigxeki noma nizihlulele, nibe nemininingwane, nibekezelelane futhi nisho okungenani ukuncoma okukodwa nsuku zonke.
3. Cela usizo kochwepheshe. Ngeke sikhathale ukukunikeza lesi seluleko. Kungabasiza ukuthi basebenze kangcono ebudlelwaneni obusondelene nasezinkinga zabo siqu.

Ungawusindisa kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki? Kwenzekani uma kunokungathembeki emshadweni? Yini okufanele uyenze uma kwenzeka ukungathembeki emshadweni? Ungakusingatha kanjani ukungathembeki emshadweni? Yimibuzo esikuchazela yona ukuthi ubambisane nenqubo yakho yokwakha kabusha imishado nokuqinisa ubudlelwano.

Uma kwenzeka uzibuza, Ngiwusindisa kanjani umshado wami ngemuva kokungathembeki? noma ungamzuza kanjani oshade naye emuva kokungathembeki ?, uzokufeza lokhu kuphela uma umlingani wakho ezimisele ukubuyisa ukuphulwa kwezifungo.

Uma ngabe uyithandile le ndatshana, unganqikazi ukuyaba kumanethiwekhi wakho omphakathi.

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