Ukwelashwa Kokwamukelwa Nokuzibophezela kungaba yithuluzi elifanele lokuzitholela ukuqonda nokuthola ukuthi ungazivumela kanjani uqondiswe yimithetho nemicabango yakho empilweni. Ingqondo yakho ihlala yazi kahle kakhulu futhi ivame ukukutshela okufanele ukwenze noma ongafanele ukukwenza.
Uma kwenzeka lokhu kuholela ekukhathazekeni noma ekucindezelekeni, kuhle ukunikeza ingqondo yakho ithonya elincanyana futhi wenze okuningi ngokuya ngemizwa yakho.
Lokho kudinga ukuqeqeshwa okuthile. Ingqondo yakho ibe nethonya elikhulayo kuwe kusukela ebuntwaneni, futhi nsuku zonke zokuphila kwakho, uba nokuhlangenwe nakho okusha okunquma isithombe sakho sokuthi yikuphi okulungile nokungalungile. Ukuzivocavoca ku-ACT kukuvumela ukuthi uhlole ukuthi imithetho yakho yalokho okulungile nokungalungile, ngakho-ke lokho wena nemvelo yakho kumele nihlangane kukho konke.
Ukuzivocavoca okuyinselele ngomphumela omangazayo
Ukuzivocavoca okusebenzayo kuyisisekelo se-ACT. Lezi izivivinyo ezingavamile ezizokumangaza kwesinye isikhathi. Noma ungakuboni ukuba lusizo kweminye imisebenzi, kubalulekile ukuthi uyenze, ngoba ilusizo impela. Inselelo ukunqoba ukumelana kwakho, futhi ekugcineni kwenqubo, uzocabanga emuva futhi wazi ukuthi lokhu kuvivinya nakho kukusizile.
Akuzona zonke izivivinyo ezenziwa ku-ACT ezihlanganisiwe. Ukwelashwa kukhulu kakhulu kulokho, futhi kulabo abakuqalayo, kufanele, vele, bahlale kuyinto emangazayo. Okokuzivocavoca okuxoxwa ngakho, kubalulekile ukuthi ungagcini nje ngokukufunda kodwa futhi kufanele ukwenze ngempela!
Hlala ufuna ukugcina ukulawula
Ukuzivocavoca okwenziwa ekuqaleni komthetho kwenziwa incwadi yomthetho yomuntu siqu. Uthenga incwajana encane ehlala ingena ephaketheni lakho langemuva noma esikhwameni. Lokhu kubalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukubhala phansi konke phansi ngesikhathi okuwela kuwe. Kungaphandle nje kwekhaya lapho uvame ukuhlangabezana nezimo ezidinga inothi, kodwa futhi ugcine incwajana yakho isendlini. Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi uhlala unepeni njalo nawe. Le ncwadi ngeyakho, futhi akekho umuntu odinga ukuyifunda le nto. Kuhamba kanjena:
Ngokungazi uzibekele imithetho embalwa empilweni. Inhloso ukubhala phansi njalo uma kufanele unamathele esimweni sakho. Ngemuva kwalokho udala incwajana yemithetho nezimiso zakho.
Izibonelo zemithetho yakho yilezi:
- Kufanele ngibe mncane
- Ufunani kuwe?
- Kumele ngibe usizo
- Angikwazi ukuba nobugovu
- Kufanele ngibukeke ngizilungise kahle
- Angikwazi ukufika sekwedlule isikhathi
- izinwele zami azikwazi ukuba manzi imvula
- Kuzofanele ngizilolonge kusihlwa
- Kumele ngipheke ngiphilile
- Kumele ngifonele umama njalo ngesonto
- Kufanele ngilale isikhathi esanele
- Angikwazi ukugula
- Kufanele ngixubhe amazinyo ami kabili ngosuku
- Angikwazi ukuba buthakathaka
- Kufanele ngijabule emcimbini
- Angikwazi ukukhala, njll
Isibonelo, kunemithetho eminingi ozibekela yona futhi ongayibhala phansi. Le yimithetho yakho yokuphila. Isibonelo, yenza lokhu nsuku zonke amasonto amabili. Uyabona ukuthi mingaki imithetho okufanele uyilandele? Zifunde zonke. Uyabona ukuthi ezimweni eziningi, ziyaphikisana? Isibonelo, ungahle ungaguli, kepha futhi kufanele uzinakekele kahle. Uma uya emsebenzini uma uphethwe umkhuhlane ngoba awukwazi ukugula, ingabe uyazinakekela kahle?
Lo msebenzi wenzelwe ukukwazisa ukuthi uqine kangakanani kuwe nokuthi akunakwenzeka nakancane ukunamathela kuyo yonke imithetho yakho, ngoba imvamisa ayinakuhlanganiswa.
Ukuzivocavoca okulandelayo ukugcina uhlelo lwezimo ezicasulayo, okuhlangenwe nakho, noma imizwa. Wakha ikholomu lapho uhlala uchaza khona isimo esingajabulisi. Eduze kwaso, wenza ikholomu ekhombisa ukuthi uzame kanjani ukulawula lesi simo. Lokhu kulandelwa ikholomu nomphumela lokhu okube nawo esikhathini esifushane bese kuba nekholamu enomthelela esikhathini eside. Ekugcineni, kuzoba nekholomu lapho uchaza khona ukuthi leli su likubize malini noma lalethwa kanjani.
Isibonelo:
| isipiliyoni / umuzwa ongathandeki | isu lokulawula lo muzwa / umuzwa | umphumela wesikhashana | umphumela wesikhathi eside | kubize ini / kwangikhulula? |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| iphathi lapho bekufanele ngihambe ngedwa futhi ngizizwe ngiyisilima | ukuba nobungane ngokweqile, ukuphuza utshwala, kungenza ngibonakale ngimuhle | Ngikugcinile, ngazizwa ngingakhululekile | Ngazizwa ngiwubuphukuphuku ngakusasa, kungani ngingenakuba yimina ngizijabulise? | Kungithathe ngobunye ubusuku ukuphumula lapho ngingajabulela iphathi, kodwa ngiyaziqhenya ngokuthi ngiye noma kunjalo |
Ukuqonda nokwamukela
Sonke siyayazi imizwa yokwesaba. Wonke umuntu unazo; kunqunywa kanjalo ukuziphendukela kwemvelo. Noma singasahlangani namabhubesi asendle angasidabula futhi sonke sinophahla oluphephile phezu kwamakhanda ethu, uhlelo lwethu lwangaphakathi lwe-alamu lusasebenza ngokufana nolo lomuntu wasendulo. Yilolo kuphela uhlelo lwe-alamu olunezindawo ezimbili kuphela: ingozi hhayi ingozi. I-alamu yakho ngeke ikhathalele ukuthi umnqamulajuqu oweqiwe emsebenzini awusongeli impilo kunengonyama yasendle.
Impendulo yengcindezi, njengokuphefumula ngokushesha nokushaya kwenhliziyo okusheshisiwe nazo zonke izinto ezihambisanayo ezikhishelwa emzimbeni, njenge-adrenaline ne-cortisol, ihlale ifana ncamashi nokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Inkinga ukuthi inani lezinto zokucindezeleka empilweni lenyuke kakhulu. Izindaba kuthelevishini noma kwi-inthanethi, iselula, isiminyaminya emigwaqweni,
Ukuzivocavoca okuqondile okusiza ngemicabango ekhathazayo yileso sesilo kanye nomhosha. Cabanga ukuthi usohlangothini lwegebe elijulile nokwesaba kwakho okukhulu (ngokwesibonelo, ukuthola umdlavuza) kolunye, ngesimo sesilo. Ngamunye wenu unomphetho owodwa wentambo ezandleni zakhe, futhi nidonsa ukuvumela omunye awele emhosheni.
Kepha uma udonsa kanzima, kulapho inunu ihlehlela emuva kakhulu. Ngakho-ke lapho unaka kakhulu ukwesaba kwakho, lokhu kwesaba kuba namandla. Uma udedela intambo, konke ukumelana nentambo kuyanyamalala, futhi uyakhululeka ekwesabeni kwakho. Ngakho-ke, zama ukuyeka ukwesaba kwakho futhi kube yilokho okuyikho. Kungenzeka abe lapho, kepha kuzohlala ngakolunye uhlangothi lwegebe.
Ukuzivocavoca ukuthola ukuqonda umehluko phakathi kobuhlungu nokuhlupheka ukudweba indilinga enkulu enesiyingi esincane phakathi.
Umbuthano omncane umele ubuhlungu, gcwalisa lapha, isibonelo: izinkinga zokulala. Umbuthano omkhulu umele ukuhlupheka; lapha, ungagcwalisa izinto ezinjengokukhathazeka ebusuku, ukugxila okuncane, isifiso esincane sokuhlangana nabangane, ukukhathala emini, njll. Esinye isibonelo: ubuhlungu buqukethe izikhalazo ezibuhlungu ezingapheli.
Ukuhlupheka kufaka phakathi ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakho, ukungakwazi ukuhlangana nabangani, ukuhlala ulala kusenesikhathi, ukuba mnandi. Ngale ndlela, uyabona ukuthi ubuhlungu bangempela bungenye into ngaphandle kokuhlupheka okuvela kubo. Ubuhlungu bunikezwa; ukuhlupheka kuyinto ongazithonya ngayo ngemicabango yakho ngakho.
Omunye umsebenzi wokufunda ukwamukela wephula imithetho yakho.
Bamba ibhuku lakho lemithetho bese uthola imithetho embalwa ozoyephula kakhulu. Ungaqala okuncane kakhulu, ngokuba sekwephuzile ngemizuzu emi-5 noma ngokulala ngemuva kwengxenye yehora. Ungaphuma endlini ngaphandle kokuxubha amazinyo, udle izinto ezingenampilo usuku lonke, noma uhambe emvuleni ngaphandle kwesambulela.
Imithetho yakho ingasebenziseka, futhi akudingeki uyiqede. Kepha ngokwaphula okumbalwa, uzobona ukuthi umhlaba awubhubhi, futhi uzakhela isikhala esithe xaxa. Mhlawumbe kwesinye isikhathi unenkani ngokungadingekile, futhi uyabona ukuthi izinto zingenziwa ngendlela ehlukile.
Ingqondo yakho, izwi elincane elisekhanda lakho libizwa ‘ngonembeza.’
Cishe uyazi indaba kaPinocchio. UJapie Krekel unikezwa umsebenzi obucayi wokubumba unembeza wakhe njengoba uPinocchio engunodoli wokhuni. Yileyo ndlela esebenza ngayo nathi. Ingqondo yethu, noma unembeza wethu, uhlala usitshela okufanele sikwenze. Noma ibuza imibuzo ngaphambi kokuthi uqale wenze okuthile, isibonelo: Ngabe lokho kuhlakaniphile? Kuhlala kumatasatasa kukala loko lokungiko nalokungasiko
Kuhle. Ngisho nasezingeni lokuthi kungaba yisithiyo. Enye indlela yokuqonda lokhu ukuqamba ingqondo yakho. Ungacabangi ukuthi uzokwakha ubuntu obabili ngaleyo ndlela; i-akhawunti yakho izoqhubeka ibe ngeyakho. Yinike igama lomuntu ongasondelene kakhulu nawe, kepha wena ulinganisela ngokulingene, isibonelo, umdlali waseshashalazini noma umbhali.
Futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi uma ubona ukuthi uzwa lelo zwi elincane futhi elikwenza ungabaze, wenze izimo zakho zenhlekelele noma ukhathazeke, uthi kuloyo mqondo: (qamba igama), ngiyabonga ngokungiluleka, kepha manje sengiyazithathela isinqumo . Ngale ndlela, unikeza imicabango yakho ithonya elincane, futhi wenza izinto ngokuvumelana nemizwa yakho. Bonga iseluleko sakho; kungasiza,
Ungavumela futhi imicabango yakho ibe nethonya elincane ngokwenza izivivinyo ze-defusion. Lokhu kusho ukuthi udala umehluko phakathi kokucabangayo nokwenzayo. Imicabango cishe njalo amagama asekhanda lakho, futhi ngokukhohlisa, uqala ukususa amagama anencazelo yawo, futhi uzobona ukuthi lawa ngamagama esiqhamuke nawo uqobo hhayi iqiniso.
Isho igama elithi ubisi. Imizuzu emithathu elandelanayo. Ucabangani ngegama emva kwemizuzu emithathu? Ngabe usenaso isithombe sesiphuzo esimhlophe, esinokhilimu nokunambitheka kwaso engqondweni? Noma ingabe igama lilahlekelwa yincazelo ngemuva kokuliphinda kaningi ngokulandelana? Ungakwenza lokhu phambi kwesibuko, ngomusho ofana nalokhu: Ngibuthakathaka. Kuyasiza kakhulu lapho wenza ubuso obuhlanyayo ngalemizuzu emithathu njengoba ukhuluma amagama. Noma khuluma wedwa ngezwi elingavamile. Kufanele ikhulume kakhulu, futhi kufanele uyigcine imizuzu emithathu. Uma wenza ukuvivinya umzimba ekhanda lakho kuphela, khona-ke akusebenzi.
Imibono yakho neyendawo yakho
Ukuzivocavoca okulandelayo kubizwa Ngakho ucabanga ukuthi ungakwazi ukudansa?
Ake sithi unazo zonke izinhlobo zamaphupho nezinto ofuna ukuzenza empilweni, kepha ubona izithiyo eziningi zimi endleleni. Ungathanda ukudansa ngempilo yonke, ngaphandle kokubanjwa njalo izizathu zokuthi kungani kungenzeki.
Kepha kunenkinga; wenza umdanso wakho endaweni yokudansa, kodwa kukhona ijaji eliqinile labantu abathathu eceleni. Lowo ucabanga ukuthi udansa ngokukhululeka kakhulu; omunye ufuna ukubona izinto ezahlukahlukene, bese umuntu wesithathu athi isitayela sakho asihambisani nokunambitheka kwakhe. Ngenkathi ufuna kuphela ukujabulela ukuzimela! Amavoti amajaji angaqhathaniswa namazwi asekhanda lakho, ahlala enombono ngakho konke.
Bese kuba nezethameli eziningi ngemuva kwephaneli ezihalalisayo noma ezimemezayo ziyahleka noma zikhononde. Lezi zilaleli ziqhathaniswa nabantu abasendaweni yangakini, abahlala benombono mayelana nezinketho zakho. Futhi-ke kunabavoti ekhaya, bonke banemibono kanye nezahlulelo zabo. Ungaqhathanisa lokhu nemibono ejwayelekile nokwahlulela komphakathi. Uma ufuna ukunaka yonke le mibono kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho, kuzofanele ume unganyakazi ngoba ngeke kusebenze ngenkathi kusadanswa.
Futhi-ke yonke imibono yehlukile. Ingqondo yakho izokubuza ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi ungakwazi yini ukudansa. Futhi ungazama kanzima ukukholisa i-akhawunti yakho ukuthi kunjalo. Kepha ungaqhubeka nokudansa uzenzele okwakho. Ngoba uma kufanele ulalele wonke umuntu, awusoze wenza kahle futhi kungcono uyeke ukudansa ngokuphelele.
Lapho unesikhathi
Ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile ngesikhathi se-ACT, uzobona ukuthi izinkathazo zakho zizokwehla, futhi uzokubona ngokushesha lapho ingqondo yakho iqala ukuthatha futhi. Ngoba okungenani uyeka ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka ngaphambi kwesikhathi, uzoqala ukonga isikhathi namandla. Kucishe kungakholeki ukuthi ungakanani isikhathi namandla owachitha njengomuntu nsuku zonke ungabaza, uziphathe kabi, noma ukhathazeka ngekusasa noma ngokudlule. Ungasisebenzisa lesi sikhathi kahle ukucabanga, ngokwesibonelo.
Lokho kukwenza wazi kakhulu lapha futhi manje nangemizwa yakho. Inomphumela wokuphumula futhi ingasetshenziswa, isibonelo, kulayini werejista yemali. Esikhundleni sokucasulwa abantu abahamba kancane phambi kwakho, okwenza ukuthi ukhungatheke kakhulu, zama ukuzizwa kahle. Zizwe ukuthi imilenze yakho iboshelwe kanjani emhlabathini. Zizwe amandla agijima emzimbeni wakho. Yizwa ukuphefumula kwakho. Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, isikhathi sakho futhi ngokushesha ucindezeleke kancane.
Ungenza uhlu lwamagugu akho empilweni, izinto ezibalulekile kuwe (zemizwa yakho, hhayi ingqondo yakho). Ngemuva kwalokho uqhamuka nezenzo zikakhonkolo bese ubhala ukuthi ufuna ukusebenzela la manani. Kwenze kube lula kuwe, ngokwesibonelo, ngokubeka incwadi etafuleni njengokujwayelekile uma ufuna ukukhulula isikhathi esithe xaxa sokufunda. Uma ufuna ukuqedela okuthile ekhaya ngomsebenzi wakho ngokungathi sína, gqoka izingubo zakho zomsebenzi.
Ebhulukweni lakho lokugijima lokuvilapha, unakho okuningi engqondweni ukuthi ufuna ukuphumula kusofa, futhi ngesudi yakho ehlelekile, lokho cishe akunakwenzeka. Uma uzogijima, beka izicathulo zakho zokugijima phambi kombhede wakho bese ugqoka izingubo zakho zezemidlalo ngobusuku obandulele. Uma uzigqoka ngokushesha ngemuva kokuvuka, mancane amathuba okuthi ungazisusa futhi ngaphandle kokuqala ukuhamba.
Ungasebenzisa wonke amasu we-ACT empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.
Ekugcineni, amathiphu amabili amancane angaba nomthelela omkhulu. Faka esikhundleni semisho yakho, kokubili ekusebenziseni kwakho ulimi nsuku zonke nasemicabangweni yakho, igama elithi ‘kodwa’ ngayo yonke into ‘futhi.’ Uzobona ukuthi izinto akudingeki ukuthi zikhiphele ngaphandle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi faka igama elithi ‘kumele’ ufake elithi ‘can’ noma ‘funa.’ Lawa ama-nuances amancane enza umehluko omkhulu kumathuba ozibonela wona.
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- Ingqondo yakho, izwi elincane elisekhanda lakho libizwa ‘ngonembeza.’
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- Lapho unesikhathi
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